Monday, July 02, 2007

Cracked Pot

A water bearer in India had two large pots, each hung on each end of a pole which he carried across his neck. One of the pots had a crack in it, and while the other pot was perfect and always delivered a full portion of water at the end of the long walk from the stream to the master's house, the cracked pot arrived only half full.

For a full two years this went on daily, with the bearer delivering only one and a half pots full of water in his master's house. Of course, the perfect pot was proud of its accomplishments, perfect to the end for which it was made. But the poor cracked pot was ashamed of its own imperfection, and miserable that it was able to accomplish only half of what it had been made to do.

After two years of what it perceived to be a bitter failure, it spoke to the water bearer one day by the stream. "I am ashamed of myself, and I want to apologize to you. "Why? asked the bearer. "What are you ashamed of?"

"I have been able, for these past two years, to deliver only half my load because this crack in my side causes water to leak out all the way back to your master's house. Because of my flaws, you have to do all of this work, and you don't get full value from your efforts," the pot said.

The water bearer felt sorry for the old cracked pot, and in his compassion he said, "As we return to the master's house, I want you to notice the beautiful flowers along the path."

Indeed, as they went up the hill, the old cracked pot took notice of the sun warming the beautiful wild flowers on the side of the path, and this cheered it some. But at the end of the trail, it still felt bad because it had leaked out half its load, and so again it apologized to the bearer for its failure.

The bearer said to the pot, "Did you notice that there were flowers only on your side of your path, but not on the other pot's side? That's because I have always known about your flaw, and I took advantage of it. I planted flower seeds on your side of the path, and every day while we walk back from the stream, you've watered them. For two years I have been able to pick these beautiful flowers to decorate my master's table. Without you being just the way you are, he would not have this beauty to grace his house."

—Author Unknown

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This story has been in circulation for some years now and I never get tired of reading it. Each time I receive it, I am always reminded to appreciate the uniqueness in each person.

There is good in everyone ... even the ones we loathe. I am sure it is difficult to see the good in that person because we have already formed a negative opinion about him/her. Sometimes we forget that we possess flaws too, not just the person we dislike. No one is perfect. We are all cracked pots.

So, my fellow cracked pots, you have the potential to make flowers grow... and I don't mean by sowing your seeds! We can make a difference, no matter how small the deed - for even a drop of water encourages growth.

56 comments:

svllee said...

Hi Jacqui, what a nice story. We can be so quick to judge sometimes, without delving deeper.

pearly said...

hi dear JT :

I had read this long time ago from a email , thought the same as you just never had enougt of this story , as you mention is right , no one is perfect but does not mean there are useless , as long as there had gud heart .

P/s
I can see you have yourself back now .
I am glad you are back in writting again ,love to read your post , only I am not very gud in givig comment xxxxx have a lovely night xxxx

J.T. said...

Hello Steven

So true. This story serves as a reminder that there is good in everyone. :)

J.T. said...

Hello Pearly

I am glad you are feeling better too and thank you for your kind compliments and thoughtful comments. :)

Pi Bani said...

Yeah, I'm a cracked pot alright... and definitely not a vain pot... :)

You're right, there is good in everyone. When we dig, look for the gold, not the dirt.

Mat Salo said...

Morning JT (or is it nite' over there?)..

Beautiful story. Guess there's hope in the crackpots in all of us...

Err.. sorry to deviate. But if late Dad was the AO (Crime?) I think we might've met. In '86-'87 while "mengganggoring" I was under-employed as a Branch Sales Rep of a shipping co in Port Klang and our office was broken into. So we had a meeting with the PDRM honchos. Was PK under his area? My, my...small world?

ruby ahmad said...

Hi JT,

Like you I have read this piece, and yes, this is one piece that we never tire of. Everytime I read it again, it makes me feel good to be me...with my rights and wrongs and all for a reason. It is motivating to know our wrongs can right some other things in life. It goes to show we must appreciate everything that has been bestowed upon us and then we will push on in life more fulfilled.

tony -stand-up philosopher said...

Hi JT,
Very nice lesson this story teaches. I'm trying to learn one thing. That is to believe in those in need more than they believe in themselves...with all our inadequacies and cracks and all. Not easy la but trying.

winniethepooh said...

I agree with you j.t. that it is difficult to see the good in a person because we have already formed a negative opinion about him/her. We cannot control what others do/say/think but we can definitely control what we do/say/think..

As you written in a previous post, about choices. Everything we do/say/think is a choice. I have to constantly remind myself that even :)

Thanks for sharing this story to remind us to appreciate the uniqueness in each person

Cheers

Editor said...

j.t. dear, agreed we are all cracked pots because we have our flaws. Now if we don't let each other know our flaws, how on earth are we to correct ourselves? We cannot see our own mistakes because if we did then we won't be making them. It is for the others seeing it to point it out! Only then can we correct ourselves and make this world a better place then we found it. If we don't correct ourselves, then we have no business correcting others. To change the world, the correction must come from us first.

Anonymous said...

I'm a cracked pot as well (hehe - that sounds like crackpot!) so it's good to know there's still hope for me!

ps.
re: the comment you left on my blog regarding T-Com. You know, I went to a T-Com shop with my bills (before I read your comment!) and the guy told me that I had to go to MY bank to transfer the money to the T-Com account OR transfer it via internet banking (with the Rechnungsnummer in the comments)!

Bugger. I've already done that...also before reading your comments. Your comments actually sound more reliable! Hope we don't have to pay twice!

Rashikaps said...

Hey JT,

I've read this a couple of times too. :)A big morale booster it is. Rightly said, there's some good in each one of us.. even the people we don't get along well with. We can learn from them too.

It would be really worth our while if we were able to extract the positive out of each interaction, relationship, (regardless of the quality of the interaction or relationship) and not worry ourselves unnecessarily about stuff that doesn't go down well with us. Life would be simpler. :)

J.T. said...

Hi Pi

"When we dig, look for the gold, not the dirt." So true...Thanks. :)

J.T. said...

Hi Mat Salo

Your comment was time-stamped 2:31am. Definitely morning. I was fast asleep dreaming of something or someone. Cannot recall the dream. :)

Though we are cracked pots, we still have hope to make a little difference in people's lives. How we choose to do it? It is really up to the individual.

Re my dad... yes, he was in charge of crime. You may have met him if you say the PDRM honchos were there at your office. Port Klang, I believe, was under his jurisdiction too. Small world huh? :)

J.T. said...

Hi Ruby,

I agree with you - it is motivating to know that our shortcomings are gifts too.

Sometimes we are too hard on ourselves and think we won't amount to something. Little do we know that what we do not appreciate in ourselves can be a gift to someone else. :) Thanks.

J.T. said...

Hi Tony

It's true, it is not easy. Pre-conceived notions, I find, are the stumbling blocks. But trying to believe is already a step towards making that difference. :)

J.T. said...

Hello Winnie

Ah! you remember that posting. :)
Sometimes, we cannot change what another person thinks of us (and vice versa) but we can definitely try to look for the positives .. that is a choice we make.

J.T. said...

Hello Rajahram

I agree with you... sometimes we need someone else to point out our mistakes (and it can be hurtful). We learn to change from there.
But unless we correct ourselves in that certain flaw, we have no business going round correcting others. Change comes from within.

Thanks for your insightful comment. :)

J.T. said...

ColourMeCrazy,

Whenever I read this story, I also think about my school days when friends and I used to call each other 'crackpot' - when we did silly things. I am still one today. :D

Re your T-Com bill, if Telekom finds that you have paid twice, you will see a refund in one of the following months. If not, kick up a fuss and say "Ich will mein Geld." (I want my money).
I went to Deutsche Post to make sure nothing extra has been taken out. The guy was helpful. I waited there while he called to check on it. Then I went ahead and filled up that form (that comes with your bill and payment slip) and mailed it off to the address - you will see it on the top left hand corner of your rechnung.
I am sure you will get yours resolved soon. :)

J.T. said...

Hey Rashikaps

Life would definitely be simpler if we could put those undesirables aside and focus on the good stuff.

Somehow it is harder to do when we try our best and then someone else comes along and does the complete opposite to us. We retreat back to "you think you are so perfect, is it? Wait till I tell you what is wrong with you!" :D

We try and that is most important. :)

the witch's broo said...

hi JT,

lovely. lovely tale.
thanks for sharing.

Argus Lou said...

Nice blogsite, Jacqui. Are you by any chance a relation of a Miss Tegjeu who taught kindergarten in Taiping, Perak (Malaysia) about 37 years ago?

J.T. said...

Hey Ms Witchy

Thanks.... and lovely to see you here again. :)

J.T. said...

Hello Argus

Welcome to my blog. Thanks for the compliments. :)

I believe you are talking about my aunt Lucy. Yes, she is my late dad's older sister. Was she your kindy teacher? :)

zewt said...

love the story... indeed, we must all see the beauty amidst our shortcomings. only when we know our limitations... then only we can concentrate on improving ourselves... and improving our weaknesses.

nyonyapenang said...

instead of lamenting our shortcomings, see it as a gift for us to improve ourselves further.

J.T. said...

Well said, Zewt. :)

"Only when we know our limitation, then only we can concentrate on improving ourselves."

Argus Lou said...

j.t., thanks for visiting my inane blog. Your Aunt Lucy was the next class's teacher and I used to envy them 'coz she looked so nice and motherly. (No offence intended to my own teacher Miss Agastine or was it Agasteen? oh dear. She was strict but fair.) ^_^
So, how is the former Miss Tedjeu? Is she in her 60s or 70s?

J.T. said...

Hello Nyonya

A gift, all too often, we find hard to accept. But when we do, and use it to improve ourselves, we become a gift to others.

Thanks. :)

Anonymous said...

Hi JT,
Thanks for the T-Com advice! Hopefully it all sorts itself out!

J.T. said...

Hello Argus

Inane blog? I think not. I learned something new about beetroot! :)

Aunt Lucy is very motherly. Soft-spoken and gentle too.
She now lives in Seremban - moved there after her husband passed away in 1991 (in Singapore). I believe she is about 77 years old now. (By the way, could your teacher be Miss Augustin? The next time I speak to my aunt I will ask her about your teacher) :D

J.T. said...

ColourMeCrazy,

You're welcome and I hope you will not need to carry those bills in your hangbag any longer! :)
Take care and (try to) have a good week.

Anonymous said...

Dear sister cracked pot,

I love this posting. I love the pot story.

Yours truly,
Fellow cracked pot

J.T. said...

Hello my fellow cracked pot.. :)

Thanks.
Happy to see you are back, rejuvenated. :)

Yours truly
Sister Cracked Pot

Apandi said...

Ha ha ha. JT the cracked pot. Just seems funny. But I do agree, even excrement have their use. Only problem is, sometimes it gets so tiring if you have to deal with them...that maybe a gardener would be more suited to do the job.

Angel Eyes said...

It's a lovely story i must say.

:)

Faten Rafie said...

j.t,

Thanks for all your condolences, all of us really appreciate it. My grandpa was really among the last of the great ones, by the look of the crowd at the funeral yesterday. The news was even in Utusan today. He might be gone. but he'll never be forgotten.

rad said...

Hi jt! Sorry for the long absense-here. I can see that you're also in need of break but somehow couldn't sever the close tie with blogieland -heheheh. Hope you're doing better now, enjoying the summer months.
In order to get you going again at full throttle since you said, "mind still not functioning as it should", I hereby tagged you with "Shuffle your music"!

P/s: I hope you've never done it otherwise my drama is wasted!

Re: The entry on the bees - wish our textbook on science got fun things like that for our reading!

Anonymous said...

Hi Jacqui,
Someone just sent me the Chinese version but the moral of the story is the same. Here it goes :

An elderly Chinese woman had two large pots, each hung on the ends of a pole which she carried across her neck.

One of the pots had a crack in it while the other pot was perfect and always delivered a full portion of water.

At the end of the long walks from the stream to the house, the cracked pot arrived only half full.

For a full two years this went on daily, with the woman bringing home only one and a half pots of water.

Of course, the perfect pot was proud of its accomplishments.

But the poor cracked pot was ashamed of its own imperfection, and miserable that it could only do half of what it had been made to do.

After two years of what it perceived to be bitter failure, it spoke to the woman one day by the stream.
"I am ashamed of myself, because this crack in my side causes water to leak out all the way back to your house."

The old woman smiled, "Did you notice that there are flowers on your side of the path, but not on the other pot's side?"

"That's because I have always known about your flaw, so I planted flower seeds on your side of the path, and every day while we walk back, you water them."

"For two years I have been able to pick these beautiful flowers to decorate the table.

Without you being just the way you are, there would not be this beauty to grace the house."

Each of us has our own unique flaw. But it's the cracks and flaws we each have that make our lives together so very interesting and rewarding.

You've just got to take each person for what they are and look for the good in them.

Argus Lou said...

j.t., my kindy teacher's name was pronounced Ah-gahz-teen, so it's not likely to be Augustin. She'd be aghast at how I don't remember how to spell it. Yup, your sweet Aunt Lucy would know better than I do.

J.T. said...

Hello Apandi

I agree.. it gets tiring sometimes. No matter how hard we try, we are still challenged.
That is when I believe we can change our philosophy - we have choices. :)

J.T. said...

Hey Angel

A lovely story with some moral behind it. A good reminder but sometimes sooooo hard to learn from it. :D

J.T. said...

Hello Athene

Thanks for dropping by.

I am sure your grandpa will forever be remembered, by his loved ones, friends and people who cared for him.

"No one truly dies, they just live on the hearts who loved them."

J.T. said...

Hey Rad

So true la... I say I am going on a break but still blogging. hahaha
I just can't post original work at the moment. (That is why I say I am on a partial break). Looking for easy stuff to blog about. So, a tag like yours should be fun ... once I get out of the confusion of how to do it. haha

Oh.. Re the entry of bees - if our school textbooks were like that, I would have been awake during lessons. :D

J.T. said...

Hello Anonymous @ 15:46

Thanks for sharing that version.

I can use that reminder often - "You've just got to take each person for what they are and look for the good in them." :)

J.T. said...

Hey Argus

OK, I will check with my Aunt Lucy to be sure. Thanks for the info.

I am sure your kindy teacher will not be too shocked if you cannot remember how to spell her name. It was so many years ago and you were .. what.. 6 years old? At that age, we were all still learning the alphabets and how to spell. :D At least you remembered her name... and my aunt's, who was not your teacher. You have good memory. :)

Lee said...

Hi JT, love this post. Never read anything like it.
Was wondering till the last two paragraphs.
Without crackpots, life would be yawnnny. Ha ha.
Keep wel JT, UL.

trueblue said...

Hi j.t,
A good story to read this morning. Everyone has their own strength and weaknesses. We just need to know which part to extract and at what situation.

I agree what you said about the difficulty in seeing the good qualities of the person we loathe. For me, I do acknowledge the person's strength but sometimes his/her weaknesses overrides their strengths which makes it difficult to have a positive opinion of them. However, I do keep in mind: No one is perfect. So I try not to think about the flaws that much. Just try to get along.

JamyTan said...

Kawan, u are as addict as me lah :)-.
Good post.
My mom is a walking model of the belief that everyone has a good side, she also believes in every ethnic race, there is always a good one or ones !
She believe we should kawan a friend as she / he is not base on color or anything.

J.T. said...

Hi U.Lee,

It certainly will be a very boring world without cracked pots in our lives. Our differences - that makes it interesting. Whether we can 'tahan' some of them, that is another story. hahaha
Thanks. You keep well too, Lee. :)

J.T. said...

Hi Trueblue

It is true - sometimes the weaknesses overrides the good stuff in the person.
I try to deal with it as positively as I can so that I don't have to live with the agitation about that person. Thus it makes it easier to get along. :)
Not easy.. but I try.

J.T. said...

Hello Jamy

Oh yes... everyone has some good in them, regardless of colour, race or creed. We would have a beautiful world if some could see beyond those things. Alas, no one is perfect but we can try to see things positively, as your mom does.

Thanks! Hope you having a good holiday.

zorro said...

Jacq...yes too often we dwell on our nagatives. Doing that all the time we regress rather than progress. I often tell my seminar participants, its time we work more on our strengths rather than spend time on our weaknesses. If we make our strengths stronger or add more strengths to our lives, invariably the weakness will disappear. The cracked pot, obsessed only with its weaknesses, did not know its hidden strengths until it was revealed. Always enjoy your pieces Jacq. Keep spreading them around.

J.T. said...

Hello Zorro

I agree ... dwelling on our weaknesses will not get us far. We need to focus on our strengths.

Thanks for sharing and for the encouragement, Zorro.
Appreciate it a lot. :)

Apandi said...

Yes, choices and I am making them now. Pray for me - that I am making the right one please.

J.T. said...

Hello Apandi

I will pray for you. All the best.