Clues and Hints
Few guys will come right out and say that they've fallen hard for you, but these gestures are dead giveaways.
Four clues he's totally hooked on you:
1. He becomes really helpful. Men crave feeling needed, and when they're gaga, they'll invent ways to be of assistance - like mowing your lawn or changing the oil in your car. Yes, it's more practical than romantic, but his heart is in the right place.
2. He's happy just to hang. When a guy is fully invested in being around you, he's content to chill out doing absolutely nothing. So it's a good sign when you start seeing him more often, even if your time together is less planned out.
3. Things remind him of you. If he is e-mailing funny Websites he has found or says he saw something in a store you'd like, it proves you're on his brain full-time .. and becoming part of his inner world.
4. He gives you a sweet nickname. Dudes only use tender terminology like pet names once they're comfortable being vulnerable around you.
*From Cosmopolitan magazine July 2007 issue.
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50 comments:
Hey JT,
The 4 clues! You talking about me la.
So true, so true. Those who do these, I call them go-getters.
Hi "Mr Go-Getter" Tony,
Sometimes the guys who do these things are misunderstood too. Poor things. Hence, a reminder to my fellow women out there that most men do mean well. :)
Hi JT, How you doing'? Aha, Cosmo suda keluar romance clues, huh? Okay, lets check it out..
1/ 'Really helpful'...change oil, potong rumput..I think more likely orang puteh countries, but yes..we (men) got sayang sikit will do things for her, even though at home the grass has become lallang cannot even see the pet dog. Help her carry groceries etc. Wash her car, ada. I have done something that you give me $50 bucks I will not do, (takut get mistaken for pondan) but perumpuan punya pasal...my current flame was into knitting (for sister's baby) and bought that whatyoucallit....and I had to put out my two hands like praying for lottery to come out, hold it while she unwind the 'string' into a ball. At first almost chabut, do U turn heard she want to knit for baby, thought she giving me BIG hint, ha ha.
2/ Hanging out? Do nothing? Hmmm, got also la. But for me, prefer if hang out, go to the beach or club, at least see her in bikini, fool around do something. No, not THAT! Ha ha.
3/ Things remind me of her? Yes, can say that only if her name stamped on forehead. Me? I TRY avoid that, very rarely say that, give her ideas then, and those ideas one is carrying her right hand say "I do" ada possibility...ha ha. I avoid that as when want to change partners ada lecheh sikit. Ha ha. Also in her mind next ten years still will get reminded of her if see crockpot. How?
4/ Give a nickname? Ahhh, me, cheeky, naughty names ada, nickname? This only..I repeat only if want to make my mother a grandmother. Like badminton score, 3-1. Only one I gave a nickname, my wife. I have not called her name a year after knowing her till present, only by her nickname.
(Had a few cheeky names for my ex's, 'hottie', 'droopy' (no la, not that! She always sleepy), 'tiger', 'sexpot', 'hotpot'. Ha ha.
You have a nice day, JT. Lee.
JT and Uncle Lee,
I am like Standup Philosopher. I can't be as savvy and confident and Uncle Lee.
Isn't it wonder to feel needed? :) Even tak jaya win her heart, at least i have the pleasure and honour of serving her.
What say you, Uncle Lee?
Thats a nice post j.t. :) and most of the time, thats what he will do when he is 'chasing' the gal..once they get their gals(she became the gf/wife), most of these 'effort' will suddenly vanished. Mostly when its WIFE hehehe (if gf will still need to use a lot of Uncle Lee's nijalogy to 'hold on' still..cannot 'game over' too fast mah hahaha)
hi dear JT
reading your post make me think of one of my gurl friend she just got herself a men from the internet chat , who now propost to her then now he is not just doing some mowing the grass he actually help her re do up her bathroom for her and garden . hahaha
I think men does work as wat you say in the post totaly agree with you , but she does make him work hard one job after another to send him more job cos her x hubby do nothing for her , the day he leave he leave the mess to her to clear up .
agree with winnie say , men huh once there get wat there wat the true colour will come up , same same as my hubby too sori to say that . kekekekke
see you back to blogg I am sure you are felling much more happy , bless you ,have a lovely weekend
pearly xxxx
Hi U.Lee,
I am doing ok. Still a little hazy in the brains. Thus, lack of original material in my blog. :P
Cosmo magazine has a lot of articles, from harmless ones like this to more "sexy" articles. I would like to post the latter but I'd better not la.. might shock some people. :D
1/That was a funny story about knitting. I bet you panic for a few seconds. hahahaha
I remember one fella adjusted the stereo system in my car. Helping lah so that I can get the best sound out of it. :)
I have seen some guys carry handbag also. :D So sayang.
2/ Hanging out doing nothing. That is a good idea hanging out doing nothing at the beach. At least can check her out in her bikini. Clever and cheeky. haha
When I hung out doing nothing it was usually at ex's parents' house. While I read a book or chatted with his sister or mother, he took his afternoon nap - in the living room. :P so biasa already.
3/That is a hilarious take on trying not leading a girl on. Sometimes I think it is better that way if one is not sincere about pursuing it. The problem is some men go through great lengths to show they care (and the girl gets the sign that he wants something more). Then these men change their minds the minute the girl starts showing some emotions about it. :)
If not sincere, then don't try to flatter. This goes back to my point in the last posting...
"He that flatters you more than you desire either has deceived you or wishes to deceive.”
4/Those are cheeky names. 'Droopy' certainly took my mind elsewhere. haha
Thank you for your comments, Lee. You always light up my blog with your humour. :)
Hello Hi&Lo,
We will wait for Uncle Lee to comment on this. :)
In the meantime, I will say this to you... I think those girls, whom you had the pleasure and honour of serving, missed the opportunity to be with a simple and intelligent guy like you. :)
Hello Winnie
I agree with you 100%. A lot of effort is put in when the chase is on. Once in their hands i.e. wife, they relax. hahaha
... and then wife will wonder why they don't get the same kind of attention and care like they had when they were dating. :D
Ah! The joys of figuring out each other. :)
Hello Pearly dear,
Wow... doing up the bathroom for her? :D With this guy doing so much for her, he seems like the better man compared to her ex. I hope he does not become complacent after the chase is over. :D
I am feeling better. Still having a bit of writer's block, though. So I can't think of anything original to write. In the mean time, just share what I read in magazines lah.. ;)
Thanks for your comment, dear. I hope you are feeling refreshed.
Hi Jacqui, how true..
Best, Steven
:):):):)
Girlfriend/boyfriend time, girlfriend trips over a batu, guy says, "Bodoh punya batu!"
Husband/wife time, wife trips over a batu, guy says, "Buta ke? Batu punya besar pun tak nampak!"
Awww - that's a sweet post! Does it refer to before or after the wedding? ;-)
Hello SvlLee,
...And yet these clues leave some women wondering about the men's true intentions. :D
Hello Jamy (Kayatan),
All smiles... is it an indication you agree? haha
Hello Pi
That's funny but true. :D
ColourMeCrazy,
I believe the clues are still there after the 'chase' is over. Maybe we should asked the men. :)
Men they always seem to have some excuse or rather. Here's a classic one:
The wife came home early and found her husband in their bedroom making love to a very attractive young woman, and was somewhat upset.
“You are a disrespectful pig!" she cried. "How dare you do this to me - a faithful wife, the mother of your children! I'm leaving you. I want a divorce straight away!"
And Paddy (for it was he) replied "Hang on just a minute luv, so at least I can tell you what happened."
"Fine, go ahead", she sobbed, "but they'll be the last words you'll say to me!"
And Paddy began - "Well, I was getting into the car to drive home and this young lady here asked me for a lift. She looked so down and out and defenseless that I took pity on her and let her into the car. I noticed that she was very thin, not well dressed and very dirty. She told me that
> >she hadn't eaten for three days! So, in my compassion, I brought her home and warmed up the enchiladas I made for you last night, the ones you wouldn't eat because you're afraid you'll put on weight.
The poor thing devoured them in moments. Since she needed a good clean-up I suggested a shower and while she was doing that I noticed her clothes were dirty and full of holes so I threw them away. Then, as she needed clothes, I gave her the designer jeans that you have had for a few years, but don't use because you say they are too tight. I also gave her the underwear that was your anniversary present, which you don't use because I don't have good taste. I found the sexy blouse my sister gave you for Christmas that you don't use just to annoy her, and I also donated those boots you bought at the expensive boutique and don't use because someone at work has a pair the same...
" Here Paddy took a quick breath and continued, "She was so grateful for my understanding and help, and as I walked her to the door she turned to me with tears in her eyes and said, "Please... do you have anything else that your wife doesn't use?"
Hey Lady Patsy
That's a hilarious one. That was very quick-thinking of Paddy. :D
Hi JT,
I agree with all the four points you posted.
Here's a fifth item a man can give a woman that always work wonders. It is in the form of a quiz..he he..
What is..
2 1/2 inches long
And can satisfy a woman
EVERY TIME ?
A Mastercard!
err...errrm...can i say that during the 'chase' he's hooked ON you and after the chase you may find yourself hooked TO him?
some may need help to dislodge the hook. :P
Hi Hi&Lo, and JT, to reply to Hi&Lo's, "savvy and confident"? I always believe shy men don't win fair lady. To expect a fair lady meet shy man like waiting for durian to drop. I rather climb up the tree, worry about the kerangas later, sniff out a nice durian, guess when, where it will drop and prepare foundation below. Heh heh.
And I always follow these two battery chargers of mine where women are concerned:
1/"Those who dares...Win".
2/ "Dare to be different".
Re 1/. If I see a pretty lady whether at airport, Mall or cocktail party, I give 10 minutes wait, just incase her BF or hubby gone bathroom, same time look at her fingers any gold ring? Study her dressing, her style and apply my Ninjalogy accordingly. If Kampong type, then use small town tactics (not kampong!!). But if Swiss Finishing School type, business suit and all, then try the International style approach. Use wrong style got to climb up durian tree again get bitten by kerangas.
Ahhh, of course not all the time successful. But the ahemmm, successful ones will make up for lost ones, with bonus. Can't win all. 2/ One of my favorite places for 'getting to know women' is at airport mornings. Why airport? Aha! If Singapore flight, Or Sarawak flight 65% she going on business,(note her briefcase), so think of the ahemmm, benefits or dividends she and you there, if she married, your health will remain healthy, no need think of changing your will.)
Nothing like mixing business with pleasure. If she alone, make sure she sees you glancing twice at her, this for special effects. Why?
This I call my Brazilian move, heh heh, (Brazil world football champion, they play attacking style.) I have tried this few times, 35% successful. Other 65% she recently married, just broke up with BF, fed up with men, thinking of joining Nunery or husband waiting to fetch her etc etc.
So I walk over. Note, after she noticed me glancing at her twice. I say, "good morning miss, please excuse me, but I just cannot help notice your beautiful dress, it is beautiful. Have a nice flight". Give her a nice smile and a gentleman's nod, and walk away, don't look back! (Women's two weakness are shoes and clothes.)
You can bet one plate of your mother's kueh bingka she will remember you.
Of course you will know the next move. Right?
"Tak jaya win her heart, at least have pleasure know her and serving her"?
I never try win hearts, that causes emotional turmoils or tsunamis on lady's part as they after 18 very strong maternal instincts and can lead to the alter, why chari pasal?
Have pleasure to know her? Yes. Certainly. Honour of serving her?
Not to sure about 'honour', because mine mostly dishonest. But serving Her? It depends. Cutting her bamboo hedge, mowing grass, washing her car, repair her cupboard, take her noisy poodle for a walk? This all not my cup of kopi oh. Why? It will give her mother high hopes for early grand children and she start gossip at market or kopi tiam with her mahjong kaki, you are toast!. Do it if you serious. Otherwise give excuse the calcium not reaching your knee bones.
Why make one happy? Ha ha.
You guys be cool, Lee.
Hi Ruby,
That was a good one. A MasterCard never fails. :D
It is ironic how something so little give so much pleasure? hahahaha
Hello Nyonya
Yeah, you could say that too.
And when/if the hook has been dislodged, it does not mean he is free.
There is a "hole" left in him that will remind him of her. :)
Wow... U.Lee,
That was indeed a good insight.
I like what you said and agree, "Do it if you serious."
Thanks Lee. You have a good Sunday. :)
I like all those 4 clues but I like # 1 the most....If I want to drink some coconut juice, in no time he's already up there plucking the coconut for me ... how sweet :)
have a nice weekend!!
Read it in Cosmo too. What a coincidence right dear?
Agree with sis Ruby, a mastercard!
Better still, a supplementary card from him!
:)
Sarinah,
That is sweet. :) You have a nice weekend too.
Angel,
Hey! you read Cosmo too. Cool!
A supplementary card ... so that you don't have to worry about paying the bill. :D
Hey JT,
Hah! Nowadays though, got new trend...If a guy likes you, his friends will be the ones to drop hints and tease you, while nudging the guy...And he will vehemently deny any feelings, and keep saying his friends are siao...
A while back, this was more a 'girl's' thing huh? Good to know we're bridging the gap ;)
*Hugs*
Hello Daphne Ling
Interesting.... is that the new trend?
It was less obvious in my day, at least to my girlfriends and me. We had very few clues. Confusing to say the least. :)
I believe the trend has also changed at social functions where dancing is involved. We don't get a guy saying "may I have this dance with you?"
Nowadays, it is "eh! wanna dance ah?" hehehe
Even the girls are brave enough to ask men to dance. :D
Hi JT, I'm sure there's more, especially for Bolaysian men..
5. He begins neglects his teh-tarik buddies and replace his late-nite sessions whispering sweet nothings to you
6. He misses the all-important English Premier League games
7. If he's a smoker he would pretend to have quit, but light up as soon as he drops her off
8. He takes an unusual interest in his grooming. These days they call him metrosexual..
9. He will neglect he's other "lesser" girlfriends... but make no mistake - he'll get to them later when the opportunity present itslef... hahahaa
Joke oni laa!
Hi Jacqueline,
Thank you for including me in your blogroll.That was very nice of you.I hope your friends drop by my blog and comment as well.
Was looking at your poster above. How would you know when it is over to let her go? :)
Sister,
Thanks for the clue! Anymore? hehehehe... I am back!
Hello Mat Salo
That's some observation of a Bolaysian man. Good ones, MS. Thanks for the input. :)
Don't worry le.. I know you joking.
I think you are not far from the truth about No. 9
haha
Hello Rajahram,
How will one know when it is over? Either she tells him directly it is over or there will be indications that she does not want him anymore - typically what guys do too - avoid phone calls, don't return calls, etc.
I am sure many women have their own way of ending it - some very "creatively". :)
Have you seen punctured tyres, or grafitti on cars??? hehehe
Hello Elviza dear
I have to check my Cosmo magazine (or whatever mags I can find here at home). If there are more clues, I will include them in the future.
In the meantime, Mat Salo has generously offered more clues. I wonder if he is speaking through experience. hmmm... :D
Take care sister. Glad you are back. :)
hi Jacqui :o)
Those aren't clues or hints, they're facts! :o) hehehe
Here's another 'clue':
while on the escalator, he'd rather stand next to you or be on the same escalator step as you, rather than standing a step behind or infront of you.
That was what hubby did when we were on our first few dates hehehe ... now ... he's three steps apart - front or back :op
Hello Syana
So nice to see you here again. :)
Another good observation while on the escalator. When dating cannot be too far - must be next to each other. After marriage ... "oh! I need my space." :D
What happen if it happen to a married woman ? :)
What do u think, is it possible for someone to love 2 beside the one she/he married ?
Is there such thing as underground love ? :):).
I can't help not loving the content of yr blog, dear !
Hi Jamy (Kayatan)
(I deleted my earlier comment due to a typographical error. This is in respond to your first comment) :)
I guess it is up to the woman - the way she handles such a situation will determine what comes next. :)
At the end of the day, I believe it takes two to tango. :)
Hi Jamy,
Wow.. I really do not know. I guess it is possible but the degree of love for each person will be different. That is my observation, anyway.
Oh dear, so sorry for my ignorance, but what do you mean by "underground love"? :)
Thanks for the compliment, dear.
Ha, ha, JT, did I confuse you now :).
Like underground church in China, they can't really worship freely.
I am not sure if u ever have that experience or not (don't have to tell me and I am not saying I have ):), just said someone had told me.
Say 2 person are attracted but they both are attached, they never really say it out but they know. Might be there is no sex involved just feeling !
Might be their situation, circumstances just do not permit it; and they don't want to hurt anyone, their spouses, their children, they family etc.
They keep that love for years !
U tell me what is your thought, I will let you know the result later on, ok :):).
Hi Jamy,
Sure, it is possible to have that kind of love for years. I have read and heard about it too. I don't know how they do it, though. That is just my thoughts. :)
So, tell me what are the results. :)
They both get married after their spouses passed away. It was very touching ! After loving one another for 50yrs !!!!!!!!!!
Wow... they kept going for 50 years. Very rare and touching. :)
Though a touching love story, I feel for their spouses who probably did not know what was going on.
I cannot wrong anyone here. To each his own.
I am not sure if their spouses know one another or not.
In fact, I don't know what to say about it too but I was very touched by every of the stories ( I knew 5 of such stories).
All of them (their the others) live far away ! different city !
I don't know what to say but my mom thought that were great cos not many people have the courage to do it.
I don't know what to day !
Everyone will have their own opinions about it. And your mom also has a point - that they had the courage to do it for their own happiness.
I think when it comes to affairs of the heart, it is best to let it be (that is why I said I feel for their spouses but I cannot wrong anyone). We will never know how those people felt deep in their hearts.
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