Wednesday, July 11, 2007

Annoying Things Women Do

This is a follow-up from my last posting on Ryan Murphy's Men's Top 10 Annoying Domestic Habits. As promised, here's an entry on what men find annoying in women.

Shawn Croft of AskMen came up with these 10 interesting points. In his article at that website, Mr. Croft says this:

"Men love women. The way they look, smell, walk and talk are just some of the reasons why we consider them a divine species. Yet we can't live with them, and we certainly can't live without them...
...for the most part anyway, because perfect, they are not. And upon serious analysis, I've discovered the top 10 things women do that drive men to the brink of insanity."


So, here's Mr Croft's 10 Annoying Things Women Do


Number 10 - Pretend to be virtuous

"A recurring theme among many women is that they try to place themselves under a "holier than thou" light, never admitting that they fooled around or dividing their number of boyfriends by five. Now, we applaud those ladies who truly are innocent and pure, but the rest should stop trying to water down their past. Women are allowed to have just as much fun as guys, and they should find a man who can appreciate that."

Number 9 - Criticize other women

"Why is it that many women can't make a simple compliment toward another woman? They love to nitpick about everything from weight to hairstyle and everything in between. Only a woman will notice if another woman's shoes don't match her purse and turn it into a calamity. Granted there are some women who are readily willing to admit when another woman is hot (and hopefully invite her over for a ménage), but most don't want to distract their men with any competition. Nevertheless, we spot the hot ones anyway."

Number 8 - Act jealous

"Often times, just mentioning another woman's name can spell the end of your existence. Imagine, then, the warfare you'll have to endure if she finds out you were at a gentleman's club. Call it what you will, but a lot of women have this thing that causes them to second-guess everything, especially their man's loyalty. That's why when another female enters the equation in any way, shape or form, she tenses up. If you've given her reason to doubt you, then her paranoia is likely justified. Otherwise, you shouldn't have to pay the price because she's feeling insecure."

Number 7 - Become needy

"Some women have some serious security issues. They need their men to hold them, rub them, and tell them how special they are. They turn men into their emotional crutch and look to us for moral, mental and emotional support.There's a real irony here when you think of all the women who go out of their way to show us how independent they are. These are usually the same women who become extremely insecure once they finally fall in love. Of course, as tempting as it may be to use this to our advantage, I think most men would prefer the tougher version. This way, they'd at least retain some peace of mind."

Number 6 - Speak in code

"The old "What are you thinking?" question is a timeless example of how women love to test their men and search for our true feelings about them. They hurdle obscure, theoretical questions at us that, according to them, we're supposed to know the answer to if we're really their soul mates . What a pitiful sight it is, seeing a guy tense up as his mind goes into overdrive, looking for the right answer, while his lady looks on from a distance with her arms folded and foot tapping. At this point, there's nothing left to do except throw an answer out there and hope we don't end up in the doghouse. She's in your space, she won't shut up, and the mother of all annoying things."

Number 5 - Invade personal space

"Women have this instinctive tick that makes them want to groom us anytime they want and make our personal belongings theirs. In other words, when they're not adjusting our tie for the umpteenth time, they're rummaging through our drawers, looking for a sweatshirt to change into. Am I the only one who sees a problem here? We all know that there would be hell to pay if we so much as thought about giving them a haircut or sorting through their stuff, so why is it that our turf is fair game?"

Number 4 - Become too emotional

"They cry over anything: a sad movie (or even a happy one), a broken nail, or a haircut gone awry. What's worse, they expect us to clean up the emotional mess. And if there's one thing we suck at, it's dealing with a crying woman on our shoulder.It's not that we're insensitive, but aside from saying, "There there, sweetie," we don't know the first thing about comforting a woman. The fact that women are usually more delicate and vulnerable is great; we just don't want the steady stream of tears for every minor setback."

Number 3 - Shop till you drop

"When it comes to shopping, there just aren't enough hours in the day for most women. Whether it's browsing, window-shopping, or an all-out spending spree, they can spend hours on end in a shoe store, among others, without even thinking about food, water, or any of their responsibilities.But what's worse is that they have to take us along for the ride. So there we go, from store to store, wandering aimlessly back and forth while they inspect every article of clothing by their respective price tags."

Number 2 - Talk incessantly

"Chris Rock nailed it when he said that asking how her day went renders a 45-minute conversation. Most women love to talk, and if you give them the ammo, they won't stop. It's not that we don't care about what they have to say; it's just that we don't need to hear every minute detail."

Number 1 - Use sex as a weapon

"In the war of the sexes, it's all about who wears the pants in the relationship. Often times most women, in an effort to show their superiority, will attack men's universal weak spot: sex. And while I applaud them for this gutsy tactic, they really should leave the basic human needs alone, don't you think?"

Shawn Croft concludes by saying this:

Learn to tolerate

"In the grand scheme of things, women's annoying habits aren't that bad. Chances are you'll adapt to them in time, as will she when it comes to your annoying tendencies. Nobody's perfect, and I think that's something we can all agree on."


Ladies, would you like to give reasons why SOME of us have SOME of these habits? :)

When it comes to figuring out men and women, we tend to stereotype each other, don't we? We all have our quirks and habits. As the author says, "Chances are, you'll adapt to them in time..." I believe there is always room for improvement but easier said than done.
“Bad habits are like a comfortable bed, easy to get into, but hard to get out of.”

40 comments:

Pi Bani said...

Hmmmm... since my comment in your previous posting I included the secret of women's language, this time tit for tat lah, here's what guys really mean when they say something:

"It's a guy thing."
Really means: "There is no rational thought pattern connected with it, and you have no chance at all of making it logical."

"Can I help with dinner?"
Really means: "Why isn't it already on the table?"

"Uh-huh." "Sure, honey." "Yes, dear."
Really means: Absolutely nothing. It's a conditioned response.

"It would take too long to explain."
Really means: "I have no idea how it works.

"I was listening to you. It's just that I have things on my mind."
Really means: "I was wondering if that redhead over there is wearing a bra."

"Take a break, honey, you're working too hard."
Really means: "I can't hear the game over the vacuum cleaner."

"That's interesting, dear."
Really means: "Are you still talking?"

"Hey, I've got my reasons for what I'm doing."
Really means: "And I sure hope I think of some pretty soon."

"I can't find it."
Really means: "It didn't fall into my outstretched hands, so I'm completely clueless."

"What did I do this time?"
Really means: "What did you catch me at?"

"You know I could never love anyone else."
Really means: "I am used to the way you yell at me and realize it could be worse."

"You look terrific."
Really means: "Oh, God, please don't try on one more outfit. I'm starving."

J.T. said...

Hello Pi,

hahahaha .... so funny.
I am glad you had something to offer for this posting. :)

This is so typical in my world..

- "Uh-huh." "Sure, honey." "Yes, dear."
Really means: Absolutely nothing. It's a conditioned response.

JamyTan said...

Ha ha ha I thought what u wrote was funny but when I read Pi's comments, I laughed so hard :)-.

J.T. said...

Hello Jamy

Oh... I did not write this article. I have to give credit to the author, Shawn Croft of AskMen.com
He did the research. :)
The only I thing I wrote was a few comments in the beginning and at the end. :)

Yes, Pi's contribution was priceless. :D She's a funny and cool gal - never fails to make me laugh.

winniethepooh said...

thanks for that enjoyable post j.t. and of course Pi bani, you made me laugh again! heehhehe

A little input to the reasons as to why some women have these habits...

no. 8 Act jealous
Women act jealous to boost their man's ego...As some man like to know that their woman get the msg of "Watch out, i'm still attractive and desirable to other female out there even if you have me at present!" hahaha

no.7 Becomes needy
If only men can so often say wonderful and sweet things to us (as and when we least exepected or asked) then perhaps this 'needy' might go away :P it takes two to clap u know

have a great day j.t. :)

J.T. said...

Hi Winnie,

Thanks for your input on those numbers. They make sense. I like your take on no. 7. It is very true.
The thing is, when the 'chase' is over, some men forget to show affection regularly. Some do not keep up with the holding and the rubbing. If they do, mostly it is a prelude to what THEY want. haha
So, of course, they are going to find a 'needy' woman. Her needs are not being met. :)

Daphne Ling said...

Hey Jacqui,

Sounds like Shawn Croft is guilty of number 10 and 9 himself! Holier than thou indeed! And talk about criticising...He's criticising an entire sex! Adoi! Wait till I get my ready-to-cubit-and-pulas fingers...I'll show what else a woman *Ahem!* can do...

Hahahaha...

Salt N Turmeric said...

JT, mine is more like this one.
"I can't find it."
Really means: "It didn't fall into my outstretched hands, so I'm completely clueless."

Thts why id rather find it myself.

As for the article, no. 9 is just so easy. the reason men dont criticise other men is because they dont even care how they look like so u cant expect them to say anything abt other men. duh!

no. 8. my hubby is a jealous type just like me so whts the big deal? :P

no.3. when i shop, id go for value-for-money. if by walking an extra 10-15min i can save $20 id def do it but i make sure i dont shop w empty stomach coz im hopeless when im hungry. hehe.

Odele Souza said...

Hello,

I am Brazilian. I arrive here because I read your comment in David Santos'blog. My blog, Flavia, Vivendo em Coma ( Flavia, living in Eats) is dedicated to my daughter Flavia, who is in coma for more than nine years.The blog is written in Portuguese but you can read it in English or another language, just clicking on the right flag. The translation is not so good but helps.
Thanks for your attention.
www.flaviavivendoemcoma.blogspot.com

pearly said...

HI dear JT :

Lovely post again , I enjoy reading them also it make me think which number I felt into ahhaha I guess I fix in the NO 6,7,8 hahhaha .

no one perfect I guess .

PI Bani : great too I can't stop laughing it gud one dear is dam right hahahha.


thank again to take time to post out such a lovley funny post love to bit xxxxxxxxxx

J.T. said...

Hey Daphne

Thank you for noticing that! I thought Shawn Croft sounds more like a nag. The meaning of nag - to annoy by persistent faultfinding, complaints, or demands. haha
And they say women nag. Shawn Croft did a good job proving otherwise. :D
At least the previous writer gave his list a more playful approach. :)

Yup... no. 10 - why is he so bothered unless he has been 'around town' himself? That is a projection of his own guilt. :)

As for no. 9 habit, I know of a couple of men who do that too - criticize other men. They "size" up (or down) their competitors. :)

By the way, if you would like to voice your opinions about Shawn Croft's article, just click
here

J.T. said...

Hello Princess

"I can't find it." - haha
True la.. I rather just go look for it myself. :)

Ah.. another interesting input for no. 9. Yeah, for those who don't care how they look, they won't understand why another person picks. However, there are some men who do (as stated in my comment to Daphne, above).

Princess, thanks! See.. it is not just the women. Even men can be jealous too (I'm thinking the writer has that habit too) haha

I don't have a problem with no. 3 (at least, I think so .. hehe) because when I seriously shop, I like to go alone. Nothing bothers me more than watching the man being bothered by my browsing... haha
Me too.. I cannot shop on an empty stomach - cannot think straight. :D

J.T. said...

Hello Odele Souza

Thank you for dropping by my blog and giving me your blog link.

Sorry to hear about Flavia, who still remains in a coma.
I clicked on the English translation and managed to understand a gist of Flavia's condition.

You are very strong and clearly have so much faith and love in you. God be with you always. :)

Thank you for bringing some awareness here about your daughter's condition. I shall be visiting you again. :)

J.T. said...

Hi Pearly

Thank you, dear. I have to give credit to the writer, Shawn Croft for this list. Although it sounds like he is stereotyping women, I have to agree that we have some of the habits mentioned.

Either my other half has tolerated me all these years, or I have learned to change some of my habits listed. I think I am still prone to repeating habit no. 2 and 5. Yes, no one is perfect. :D

You've gotta to love that Pi Bani. Always entertaining us with something. :D

Lee said...

Hi JT, I have chased, dated, had affairs with women from 16 years old, and even married one, but I still don't understand women, let alone my wife. (But I love her).
Some examples here and I believe I am not the only husband or lover experiencing it is:
1/ A woman sees a lovely dress at a boutique and buys it.
2 days later she receives a wedding invitation and says, "aiyohh, I got no dress to wear"! And she has not worn the one she bought 2 days ago.
2/ Above applies to shoes. Sees a beautiful pair of Prada black court shoes. She buys it as on special sale offer. The cupboard has 37 more pairs, half only worn twice, some haven't seen sunlight or moonlight yet. And its, "eee, I got no shoes to wear for the wedding".
Ahhh, but inview and with years of experience of having my meals at foodcourts (instead of homecooked) and sleeping in the spare room,
never to ask or debate, but the best reply is, "come, I'll take you to the mall". It never fails. I eat at home.
Mens' Notes:
*If you put a woman on a pedestal and try to protect her from the rat race, you're a male chauvinist.
*If you stay home and do the housework, you're a sissy.
*If you work too hard, there is never any time for her.
*If you don't work hard enough, you're a good-for-nothing bum.

*If she has a boring repetitive job with low pay, this is exploitation.
*If you have a boring repetitive job with low pay, you should get off your butt and find something better.

*If you get a promotion ahead of her, that is favoritism.
*If she gets a job ahead of you, it's equal opportunity.

*If you mention how nice she looks, it's sexual harassment.
*If you keep quiet, it's male indifference.

*If you cry, you're a wimp.
*If you don't, you're an insensitive jerk.

*If you thump her, it's wife bashing.
*If she thumps you, it's self defense.

*If you make a decision without consulting her, you're a chauvinist.
*If she makes a decision without consulting you, she's a liberated woman.

*If you ask her to do something she doesn't enjoy, that's domination.
*If she asks you, it's a favour.

*If you appreciate the female form and frilly underwear, you're pervert.
*If you don't, you're a fag.

*If you like a woman to shave her legs and keep in shape, you're sexist.
*If you don't, you're unromantic.

*If you try to keep yourself in shape, you're vain.
*If you don't, you're a slob.

*If you buy her flowers, you're after something.
*If you don't, you're not thoughtful.

*If you're proud of your achievements, you're up on yourself.
*If you don't, you're not ambitious.

*If she has a headache, she's tired.
*If you have a headache, you don't love her anymore.

*If you want it too often, you're oversexed.
*If you don't, there must be someone else.

Have a nice day, JT. Lee.

Editor said...

Hello J.T.,

Why no comments on my blog-lah? Surely a beautiful girl deserves a second look and some comments! Drop by daily and "Am I so easy to forget" and all that. Come and say it at my place.

Angel Eyes said...

#9: Criticize other woman

In the actual fact, they envy those woman and just wannabe like them. That's why they have to say something, in order to boost their ego.

Am i right?

Mat Salo said...

Need twenty more? Ha-ha...

I really cannot tahan this one "unspoken" golden rule decreed by MY "finance minister":

"What is mine is mine (when talking about property, especially legacy ones) - and what is YOURS is also mine..."

Haiyaah, how come eh?

This applies even tho' the wife makes more than the husband.

With equal opportunity and all that enlightenment shit, I think men will always get the raw deal.

That's why women outlive men.

Haha.. btw, in reality I DO celebrate the differences, though. Wouldn't want it any other way... hehe...

Rashikaps said...

Hey! I loved reading this. :) I think the last paragraph sums it really well - No one's perfect and there's always room for improvement. So take us or leave us :)

Anonymous said...

jt,
Pi Bani & UL sure have a lot to share. Heheh. I guess, the gender war is what makes life interesting & enjoyable too. Imagine we know or understand a man so well & vice versa - no more chance of pretending ignorance or at least guessing games!
After reading both recent entries, I think I'm guilty more of a 'male-side' than the female. I couldnt stand those female friends who 'become too needy, or too emotional or talk incessantly'. they simply suffocate me.
On the other hand,whenever I'm watching tv, I must have the remote in my hand. It gives a sense of such an immerse power almost akin to power to control the earth. Though mak will say she'll got headache from watching the news with me!

I'm NOT happy with the burping & farting though coz only guys get away with it. Ladies have to learn to be discreet - what a hassle! We burp too.

thewailer said...

I'm astounded by his findings, partly because I've been having vague ideas on the same theme :)

pearly said...

Ucle lee this time you really make me laught la , oh gosh you have say it all , wow , yes I agree la those you see it all is like a me in it ahahahah
we all women are like this I am so sori to say that , some time my HUBBY get so PPPPP off with me and nothing he can do about it cos he love me too ahhah just very right Uncle lee
don't you think too JT .
we are very mah fun women hahahh.

gud one uncle lee xxxxxxxxx

sori JT got to use your blog to reply when I read UL commnet jsut make me laught so bad nearly pee on myself xxxxxxxxxx

ruby ahmad said...

Dear JT,

Naaaaah! How could we believe any of the above my dear girl? We certainly ain't any of the above?? We women are the most wonderful creatures on earth..ha ha.

JT, I'm practising self affirmation...'I am a perfect and wonderful woman' and so I shall be..ha ha. Cheers.

J.T. said...

Hi U.Lee

You are hilarious! :D Always enjoy your comments. So true about the men's notes. Poor guys, never get a break, huh?

You are right about that shoes and clothes issues too. Women have their reasons (men won't understand the logic). It is better that men don't ask why (as you have from experience) :D

And.. just as how men are baffled about the clothes and shoes issues, I am sure some women will never understand why men won't ask for directions when they are clearly lost. haha
At least, in some countries now, men have the GPS to bring them around. No need to hear the partner say "why don't you stop and ask instead of going around in circles?" The GPS has definitely contributed a great deal.

Thanks for your comments. Appreciate it. Have a good day, U.Lee. :)

J.T. said...

Hello Rajahram,

Sorry la.. I've been tied up with some emergency errands the past two days.
I saw that beautiful girl in your posting. :)
I visited your blog earlier today (Central European time about 6:30am). I left a note that I will return. See you there.

J.T. said...

Hello Angel

I agree. Some criticise another to boost their own ego.
It is just human nature - for both men and women. Good point. :)

zewt said...

so being vulnerable is why women feel more emotional eh? :)

not every man will fall for the sex weapon u know...

J.T. said...

Apa khabar Pak (Mat Salo)...

Would you like to add 20 more? I know you're dyin' to. :D

You wrote about this 'unspoken' golden rule that you cannot 'tahan': "What is mine is mine (when talking about property, especially legacy ones) - and what is YOURS is also mine..."

Oh.. that can be fixed MS.
First get a lawyer. Then decide what stays as yours and put it down in writing - signed and sealed. Then tell her all about it. ;) Good luck! :D

I think celebrating our differences adds to the fun of living. I wouldn't want it any other way too.

J.T. said...

Hey Rashikaps,

You wrote: "No one's perfect and there's always room for improvement. So take us or leave us."

Yeah.. "love me or leave me". :)
If he loves her .. he will take her ... imperfections and all.

J.T. said...

Rad,

I suspect that some men will find it refreshing that you tend to have more male habits. :)

Yup .. women have been brought up to be more discreet with their bodily functions. However, I believe when women are comfortable in their surroundings (especially at home) they just 'lets it all out'. haha

J.T. said...

Wailer,

Men are alike. :)

J.T. said...

Hello Pearly

Don't worry about it, dear. You can use the space here to address U.Lee or anyone who has commented. The more the merrier.
Do you remember this song from our childhood? I think it goes something like this...
The more we get together, together, together.
The more we get together, the happier we'll be.
For your friends are my friends
And my friends are your friends
The more we get together, the happier we'll be.


I used to like singing that song as a child. :)

Yup.. I agree with you. We are very 'mah fun'. :D
It is good to laugh at ourselves.

J.T. said...

Dear Ruby,

It's too late. I have walked over the 'other side' - agreeing that I have some of those annoying habits. darn! haha

Don't stop the self-affirmation, Ruby. Safe yourself. *hand reaching out while being pulled away*
being dramatic, here haha

J.T. said...

Zewt,

I think anyone who makes himself/ herself vulnerable, will feel more emotions - not just women. :)

You wrote: "not every man will fall for the sex weapon u know..."

Okie dokie... if you say so. :)

Anonymous said...

Hehe - I'm definitely guilty of no. 4! I always cry at sad movies!!

Anonymous said...

Ouchhhhh! quilty as charges for few items mentioned. Not telling which ones! Muahahaha

J.T. said...

ColourMeCrazy,

I wonder what is wrong about crying at a sad movie. It is sad and it touches the heart. Don't feel guilty about it. :)

I think the writer has unfairly included crying over a sad movie with other issues. Issues that even some women find annoying. I believe not all women cry over every minor setback. The writer must have been hanging out with the wrong women. :D

J.T. said...

Hello Elviza sayang,

Better keep it to yourself. The less 'they' know, the better. hahaha

pearly said...

hi JT :
I remeber this sone love it , very easy going and happy song , I try to do those sone in my blog but I can't , very stupid la me .
will try to play around on the weekend .

you are really gud on choice song .

have a lovely weekend . by the way have you try the OFG yet ? today I had make winnie a pie and will post it step by step in picture is really quik and easy you will like it you don't have to add banana you add some other fruit you like .xxx

J.T. said...

Hi Pearly

Thanks for the compliment about the song choice. :) One Fine Day by The Shirelles is upbeat. I used to listen to this song on my CD back in Malaysia.

Pearly, you are a smart lady. I am confident you will be able to get songs on your blog soon. :)

By the way, I haven't tried the OFG yet. I keep forgetting to do it lah. I am grateful you gave me the recipe, though. Thanks. :)

You have a lovely weekend too. Take care.