Wednesday, February 18, 2009

Unexpected great moments

You may have seen this in your inbox before but I feel re-reading it gives us a gentle reminder about important lessons in life. I think there are several within this story and not just at the end which is the title of this post. Everyone picks up different lessons because we are unique individuals. There is no wrong answer because feelings are never wrong. What strikes you most?

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I arrived at the address where someone had requested a taxi. I honked but no one came out. I honked again, nothing. So I walked to the door and knocked.

'Just a minute', answered a frail, elderly voice. I could hear something being dragged across the floor. After a long pause, the door opened. A small woman in her 90's stood before me. She was wearing a print dress and a pillbox hat with a veil pinned on it, like somebody out of a 1940s movie. By her side was a small nylon suitcase. The apartment looked as if no one had lived in it for years. All the furniture was covered with sheets. There were no clocks on the walls, no knickknacks or utensils on the counters. In the corner was a cardboard box filled with photos and glassware.

'Would you carry my bag out to the car?' she said. I took the suitcase to the cab, and then returned to assist the woman. She took my arm and we walked slowly toward the curb. She kept thanking me for my kindness.

'It's nothing', I told her. 'I just try to treat my passengers the way I would want my mother treated'..

'Oh, you're such a good boy', she said. When we got in the cab, she gave me an address, and then asked, 'Could you drive through downtown?'

'It's not the shortest way,' I answered quickly.

'Oh, I don't mind,' she said. 'I'm in no hurry. I'm on my way to a hospice'.

I looked in the rear-view mirror. Her eyes were glistening. 'I don't have any family left,' she continued. 'The doctor says I don't have very long.'

I quietly reached over and shut off the meter. 'What route would you like me to take?' I asked.

For the next two hours, we drove through the city. She showed me the building where she had once worked as an elevator operator. We drove through the neighborhood where she and her husband had lived when they were newlyweds. She had me pull up in front of a furniture warehouse that had once been a ballroom where she had gone dancing as a girl. Sometimes she'd ask me to slow in front of a particular building or corner and would sit staring into the darkness, saying nothing.

As the first hint of sun was creasing the horizon, she suddenly said, 'I'm tired. Let's go now'

We drove in silence to the address she had given me. It was a low building, like a small convalescent home, with a driveway that passed under a portico. Two orderlies came out to the cab as soon as we pulled up.. They were solicitous and intent, watching her every move. They must have been expecting her. I opened the trunk and took the small suitcase to the door. The woman was already seated in a wheelchair.

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'How much do I owe you?' she asked, reaching into her purse.

'Nothing,' I said

'You have to make a living,' she answered.

'There are other passengers,' I responded. Almost without thinking, I bent and gave her a hug. She held onto me tightly.

'You gave an old woman a little moment of joy,' she said. 'Thank you.'

I squeezed her hand, and then walked into the dim morning light. Behind me, a door shut. It was the sound of the closing of a life. I didn't pick up any more passengers that shift. I drove aimlessly lost in thought. For the rest of that day, I could hardly talk. What if that woman had gotten an angry driver, or one who was impatient to end his shift? What if I had refused to take the run, or had honked once, then driven away? On a quick review, I don't think that I have done anything more important in my life.

We're conditioned to think that our lives revolve around great moments. But great moments often catch us unaware-beautifully wrapped in what others may consider a small one.

Friday, February 06, 2009

Celebrations of Life and Love

In about a week, the world celebrates Valentine's Day. I do not really have fond memories of this day as a teenager or in my early 20s because I was a late bloomer. When there was someone in my life, it was never around February (talk about luck, huh?). :D

I told myself that someday when I do have someone to share the day with, it will be special. Well, it was - a long distance relationship which led to marriage. The distance did not make the day any less special. We exchanged gifts and cards via post and chatted online.

"The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart." -Helen Keller


Almost 10 years later, we have settled into an understanding that we will not make a big deal out of Valentine's Day. Frankly, it has becomes so commercialised (like Christmas) that sometimes the true meaning of the day is lost.

I rather celebrate my birthday (which falls four days before cupid makes his appearance) because everyday is Valentine's Day to me (except the days when the love of my life should be sleeping with one eye open). :P

"Young love is a flame; very pretty, often very hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. The love of the older and disciplined heart is as coals, deep-burning, unquenchable. " - Henry Ward Beecher

So, what do we do on my birthday? If it is a week day, he goes to work and I go shopping! I treat myself to something nice and buy a cake from the bakery and wait for the weekend to celebrate my birthday with a meal.

Now, what would it be like if I were living in Malaysia? Then, I think it would be slightly different - a not-so-quiet affair. Family and some faithful friends will insist on getting together. This was the norm when I was single. We had a special meal at home and then when the weekend came around, the old faithfuls would choose a spot in K.L. to make it an evening of food, cake and booze. No, I did not touch the booze because I was always the designated driver (birthday or otherwise). The times when I did drink were the nights when I was guaranteed a safe ride home.

So, coming back to Valentine's Day, did you know that 188 million Valentine's Day cards are exchanged annually, making Valentine's Day the second-most popular greeting-card-giving occasion? (This total excludes packaged kids valentines for classroom exchanges.) (Source: Hallmark research)

You can find more interesting facts at http://www.history.com/content/valentine/did-you-know

Oh .. and if you are looking for the history of Valentine's Day, check it out here.

Happy Valentine's Day to all who are celebrating it and Happy Any-Day-Is-A-Good-Day Day for those who choose to celebrate it another day.

And for those who got married on Valentine's Day, Happy Anniversary.

"Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking outward in the same direction." - Antoine de Saint-Exupery